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Hi there, welcome to my blog. Yes I am a drama queen and yes I have been deemed “infertile” by a few of the medical experts in the great State of Colorado but that hasn’t made me give up my quest to have children quite yet. My husband and I have been on the emotional roller coaster of infertility since March of 2009 when I stopped taking birth control after being on it for ten straight years. I have been keeping a journal since the start of this process and thought I would share it with all of the other incredible women out there who may be going through the same thing or similar thing that I am. At age 28, I have been diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure (POF). With no history of fertility problems on either side of my family and normal periods before going on the pill, I was left to accept that I have this condition and that there is no medical explanation for it. Since receiving this diagnosis from a fertility specialist in May 2009, I decided I simply wasn’t going to accept that I wasn’t going to have children with my own eggs. I jumped into the world of Eastern Medicine, worked with an Endocrinologist and even went on a fertility diet trying to get my ovaries to start functioning normally. The conclusion I have come to is this…..having Celiac Disease (Gluten/Flour intolerance) and continuing to eat flour throughout most of my childhood and part of adulthood caused my body to produce anti-bodies that have now started attacking the organs/glands in my body. After a visit to an endocrinologist in December 2009, it was determined that I have ovarian antibodies which are essentially antibodies produced by my body that only attack the endocrine system. No doctor has actually confirmed my self diagnosis that the Gluten Intolerance caused this but Celiac Disease is an auto immune disorder and any auto immune disorder can cause your body to attack itself. I am currently waiting to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist to see what the next steps for me will be. I have read that doctors can try and stimulate the Pituitary Gland to get your Endocrine System running again or that you can be given steroids to help restore ovary function. I am hoping to receive one of these treatments in the near future but only time will tell. In the past 10 months, I have watched many of my close friends become pregnant while I remain a sad statistic. This blog contains my thoughts as I struggle through the process of figuring out what in the world is going on with my body and how I continue to try to stay upbeat and positive about my fertility and enjoy my life. I hope that my blog can help others would love to hear from other women going through the same thing, inspiring stories or anyone who just needs encouragement. I know and understand how difficult every day can be once you have received the POF or infertile diagnosis and want you all to know that I am here for you. Please note that some of you may feel I am sharing to much information (TMI) and for that I am sorry. If you want to read my blog…you get all the details. You never know what will be helpful to someone else right? God bless everyone and I wish you luck on your fertility adventures:0) Remember mind over matter!

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Infertile – a horrible word used to make women who are already feeling bad about themselves want to jump into a pool of chocolate fudge and eat their sorrows away only to realize that not only can they not get pregnant but now they don’t fit in their clothes. A word so easily tossed around by doctors that they don’t even realize they are saying it and a word that you never under any circumstances should google unless you want your brain to explode.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Trying to Make Up My Mind on the Next Step

As I laid on my coach last Thursday (3/31), I had a hard reality check as I watched Meredith on Grey’s Anatomy cry in the elevator as she admitted she was jealous of another character on the show for getting pregnant without even trying. For those of you who don’t watch the show, Meredith is the main character. Her and her husband conceived and lost the baby due to a miscarriage and since then have not been able to conceive again due to her having a “hostile uterus”. In the elevator scene last week, she is hysterically crying in her husband’s arms stating that she is the one who is taking her temps, tilting her pelvis up after intercourse, eating healthy and their coworker has a one night stand and gets preggers just like that. I had to change the channel for a minute to make sure that Meredith’s fake breakdown on tv wouldn’t cause a very real life breakdown for me. Although in some sick way, that made me feel better, I didn’t want to think about my fertility issues. Just wanted to be a couch potato and enjoy my Thursday night. This episode was after the previous week’s episode of Private Practice ( a spin off of Grey’s Anatomy) where that main character, who has been told she can’t have children, thought she was pregnant and found out at the end that it was just the flu. Can’t a girl just eat fattening food and watch her programs without being brought back to reality? I mean isn’t that the point of watching tv? To take a break from life? That is the whole reason why the Jersey Shore is so popular!! Last week I was experiencing some interesting symptoms. I was not wanting to take a test but after four straight days of having breast tenderness and feeling nauseated around dinner time, my hubby came home with a test and made me take it. I know what you are thinking and no I wasn’t imagining it. To tell you the truth I was so busy last week I didn’t even have time to think about the whole baby thing. The test was negative and I just decided to move on quickly before the sad feelings had a chance to sink in. I just don’t understand why I keep having different things happen and then NOTHING! So frustrating. While sitting at a Rockies baseball game on Saturday night, I was sitting there enjoying a beer (yes, beer, I gave up the gluten free thing) when I starting getting a twinging feeling on my lower left side. It lasted for about 20 minutes and then I had it again on Sunday morning. Kind of weird. Back to the gluten thing. I am not exactly sure I have celiac. When I had allergies tested in 2003, I was told it appeared I had a sensity to it but not that I had celiac. When I called that office back, they wouldn’t give me my actual blood test reading so after not having wheat for over two years and watching everyone around me eat all the yummy treats in front of me, I have had enough. I have been eating gluten for about three weeks now and nothing had happened as far as side effects. I have noticed that as previously diagnosed, I cannot eat dairy. I get a hive on my face no less than 20 minutes after ingesting dairy. I am going to get everything retested this month, April 2011. I pray that celiac is not diagnosed but until then, I am going to enjoy life and eat whatever I want as long as it doesn’t have large amounts of dairy in it. Life has recently started to change for me. I have had a few opportunities come my way and I am currently weighing the options and trying to make a decision. One would be just life altering for my husband and I. So much more money and would allow us to save for IVF or donor eggs whichever we end up having to do. The other would be a very good learning opportunity but not much more money. Decisions, decisions. Perhaps I needed to make this change before being ready to have a child??? After all God knows best right?


I woke up about an hour before my alarm clock went off this morning so I just laid in bed thinking about the year that my house was built, 1950. How different life was back then. Only 35% of women were in the workforce back then and most women were housekeepers and mothers. What the heck would I have done back then? I have to think that no man would have considered marrying me back then once they found out having children is more difficult with me. I am willing to bet though that without all the stressors of life in 2011, my fertility would be completely normal. I laid there looking out the window down my street and pictured all the women in the neighborhood walking around in their full skirts, wiggle dresses or pencil skirts. I followed this daydream with some research on the mafia in Denver. According to my husband “there is no such thing as the mafia” but according to google and historical sites it was full blown in the 50’s. The head family in Denver ran a local restaurant/lounge that is still very popular today, and is in my neighborhood. I pass it everyday on my way to work picturing what it must have been like to eat there around the time our house was built. It is almost like I feel as if I lived back then or something?? I know what you are thinking “ok weirdo” but I seriously love the 1950’s. Just such a great time in history to me.



So the past week has been very interesting. I turned 30 on Monday, so sad. It appears that since turning 30 on Monday, I continue to do stupid things in the morning while getting ready for work. On Monday during a mad search for a missing cardi, I went to look behind a shelf in my closet and caught my chin on the side of the cabinet leaving a nice cut on my face. On Tuesday I seriously tried to leave the house twice wearing my house shoes and wore a skirt all day long that had the price tag still on it and hanging out for all the world to see I got a sale at banana republic. Wednesday, I went to put my robe on top of the closed toilet lid and didn’t notice my husband had left the lid open so I dunked my robe in the toilet water. This morning, Thursday, I went to turn the water warmer in the shower making it to hot. I quickly tried to turn the faucet handle to get some colder water and it fell off leaving the scalding water on. I had to try and position myself against the wall to where the water couldn’t get me and then screw the handle back on. I am seriously afraid for what tomorrow morning might bring. Perhaps I should wear a helmet or at least a chin guard. I have allergy testing in the morning so I will be taking off work. Time to finally find out what I can and can not eat. Lord, please don’t make me be celiac. I can take the dairy allergy but please I need gluten in my life! I have been taking mental notes of all my friends and coworkers stories this week. After hearing a very horrible story during a lunch meeting on Tuesday, I decided to log onto the Conceptions website and do some research. Conceptions has a discounted IVF program that includes donor eggs, if needed. They also have a program where if the IVF doesn’t take the first time, you can try again two more times. I took the estimated cost on the website and times it by 20% which would be what my husband and I would have to pay and it calculated to a little over $4,000. Right then and there I made the decision that if we haven’t conceived by next Feb 2012,I will be making an appointment at Conceptions. As soon as my bonus hits my account I will be starting that IVF/donor egg process and will ending this awful place my hubby and I have fallen into. I have also decided to try and convince my doctor to put me back on birth control for a few months to see if perhaps getting back on it and then going off it might restart things for me??? If that doesn’t work I am going to try and get a prescription for prometrium which is used to try and jump start things when people first get off of birth control. I took it for two days before being told it was useless for me to take it. I believe that if I had kept taking it and hadn’t gotten a blood test done that day in May 2008, everything would have been fine. Instead, the blood test came back, followed by an upsetting phone call, a series of even more upsetting doctors appointments and my body goes into shock/shutdown mode. Yep, there are definitely a few things I would have done differently….but then again then I wouldn’t have started this blog and learned my love for writing….so I guess there is one good thing about this. I have also decided to take myself off of the estrogen and progesterone. It has not done anything to help me cycle and this way I will know that any change, no matter how small, is happening because of me and not because I have just put on a new estrogen patch. I will continue to take the DHEA and thyroid supplement I am on but that is it. This woman is done spending $50 on hormones a month. Another decision I have made is that I am just going to plan on having to do IVF with donor eggs and try not to focus on the no baby thing until next Feb. That means I have a little less than a year to save some money, take some trips and prepare myself for pregnancy.



So it has been a few weeks since I have opened this folder and felt like dumping in my deep thoughts. I have been dealing with being 30, planning an Easter Party, switching jobs and dealing with the day to day stuff. So much has happened in the past few weeks, I just don’t know where to start…..here it goes. After not receiving any answers from the doctor’s office who originally did my allergy testing, I decided to take matters into my own hands (scary I know) and get retested. I contacted Colorado Allergy Associates and went in for the needle test and had blood drawn to test for the big G…Gluten. Like an answer to my Italian husband’s prayers, it came back negative. This meant that I had past the first test. Apparently there are two blood tests done for Celiacs testing and Labcorp forgot to test for the other one so I am currently waiting to hear back on that along with some thyroid and immune system testing. I have started eating flour and dairy (which also came back negative, not one sign of a hive from the needle) and have been enjoying it. Can I say that jumping back into the pool of doughnuts, cookies and pizza a few weeks before vacation was probably not the best thing I could do while trying to get bikini ready? Well it has been worth it! I haven’t felt bad at all! I am so happy and feel so liberated like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Before you start sending me messages yelling at me, I am aware that a diet with low amounts of white flour and dairy are better for fertility. I am simply taking a break from it all right now. I have taken myself off the hormones (estrogen and progesterone) and am just working on living my life right now. I am so tired of taking medications, going to acupuncture and everything else I was doing before. You know what, if it is meant to be then it will be. I am exhausted and am taking a break. I have been working out, going to happy hours and taking trips. I only get one chance to be in my, dare I say it again….thirties and I don’t want to spend all ten years in doctor’s offices and Walgreens. The hubby and I have decided to just take this summer and have fun and then once fall is here we will talk about our options. Sounds good to me!!!! A friend of mine at work told me she had a dream and that she believes I am going to get pregnant soon because of this dream. She, like my husband, is Italian and they believe that if you dream about fish, then someone is going to conceive. Well in her dream, a group of us were at dinner and I was the only one who ate fish. During the same dream the whole group went to the aquarium…..that is a lot of fish to be in a dream. I hope that it is true!!! Could be for her though, you never know. I have been doing a lot of reading trying to decide what my next step is going to be and I am going to ask to go back on birth control for a few months. I have read over a handful of cases where this actually helped stimulate ovulation in cases like mine and have also read that you are most fertile when you first go off the pill so…..while we are on our summer break, I figure this would be the perfect time to take the pill and see if it works. It is really a win, win for me. The hormones in the birth control pill will make me feel good and could eventually make my hormones come back :0) Only time will tell but I am excited to see if it will work. I am sad as this weekend approaches. Mother’s Day, May 8th, will be the two year anniversary date of the dreadful doctors appointment I had with the fertility specialist when they told me I had only a 10% of conceiving naturally. Two years! And I am still trying to prove them wrong. I wont let it get me down though. In that time I have watched as two couples my husband and I are friends with who were given 0% chance of conceiving got pregnant. It may be a low percentage but it is better then 0.





So Mother’s Day aka 2 year anniversary since my infertility diagnosis went pretty well. I got up, went on a jog, planted my vegetable garden and then spent the afternoon with my family and our dogs in Golden, CO. I wasn’t upset for one second of the day which was nice because I was expected to be emotional the entire day. I just can’t believe it has been at least a year and a half since I had a bleed from a period and two years since being diagnosed with POF. I still refuse to believe the diagnosis is true and continue on my three month break from taking hormones, going to acupuncture and the fertility diet. I am just enjoying life which is pretty easy to do when you aren’t worried that the nacho cheese you are eating might affect your fertility. I feel so liberated right now. Between taking this break and reintroducing gluten into my diet, I am a new woman!!! Now all I need is to get my cycle back and I will be ready to take on the world!!!



I have been feeling really great this week. My skin is flowing, no new breakouts, I am energetic and a little skinnier (thanks to Zumba on the Wii), all in all I am feeling pretty amazing. I don’t even care that the temperature outside dropped from 80 to 36 and it is raining. I put together a more then fabulous outfit, pulled out my favorite Coach umbrella and walked out the door this morning. It’s cold rainy days like today that bring me back to the days when the weather was like this and I had bad cramps so I would stay home curled up in my sweats and watch lifetime movies or Jerry Springer. I just long for that again…not the Jerry Springer….the cramps. I know that they will eventually come back to me but I am an impatient person and I have already waited for two years, I can’t stand it much longer. I was doing some research yesterday on stimulating ovulation after the pill and came across yet another story about a woman diagnosed with POF who had three children conceived naturally. I am beginning to believe my theory on POF. It is simply a diagnosis for those whom doctors have no idea what is going on with their bodies. It’s not that we don’t have eggs, hormones etc, it’s that the temporary lapse in cycles is being cause to flag something else going on in our bodies. Those that get pregnant do so because they have fixed the underlying problem by accident. I mean by now I have had so many deep thoughts recorded on this blog but don’t you think this makes sense??? I mean why would I have one doctor tell me I have no eggs to have that statement stomped on by my current doctor telling me I do have eggs??? Which is it? Plain and simple….I had normal periods, took birth control for almost 11 years during that time my body shut down that process realizing that the drugs had taken over and now it doesn’t want to start back up again. I really think the solution is to go back on birth control for a few months and see what happens.



I have decided that I am a bit bored with this whole thing now. I am just plain sick of it, in summary I am boring myself. That is why I haven’t been writing as much. I am freakin tired of dealing with this infertility crap, I just want it to disappear so I am going to make it go away for the next couple of months. I am going to be a drinking, tanning, shopping and all around relaxing type of girl this summer. Once August has arrived, I will consider what I want to do regarding IVF and/or birth control. I just want a break. I will still of course share my deep thought with you (when I have them) but can’t promise there will be many as you tend to not think that much when you are drunk…just kidding I wont be drunk…at least not the entire summer. The point of this entry is just to let you guys and gals know that my posts might not be as common this summer. Please try not to cry, it makes thing awkward for both parties. Ok now that I have that off my mind, who saw the Private Practice last night. It broke my heart watching Addison (who desperately wants a child and can’t conceive) perform a late term abortion and also watching the poor little girl who was adopted loose her adoptive family because her brother was beating her due to jealousy. So hard!!!

2 comments:

  1. I just read your entire post and cried as I felt so much of that and I know how hard this is. Try to enjoy your summer, eat, drink and be merry (i know easier said than done). In the fall I hope and pray that a neon sign lights up to lead you in the right direction. Thinking of you, Kelly (now 40 told I had POF at 30, miscarried twins at 33 and adopted our daughter from China 2 years ago).

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  2. If it means anything, I still read.

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